Recently, model and actress Emily Ratajkowski stated on TikTok that she considers divorce to be “chic.” Ratajkowski continues by stating that she does not believe there is anything superior, and she urges individuals not to worry about it. While we agree that it is ultimately beneficial for people to make decisions that make them happier and feel right, this does not negate the fact that divorce can place significant stress on individuals. Not everything is smooth weather.
We observe the impact that divorce and separation have on many people, as it frequently entails processing a variety of emotions and the added difficulty of adjusting to new financial and parental norms.
In terms of its emotional impact, divorce is frequently compared to the bereavement process. With issues such as finances and children to be resolved while combating the emotional turmoil, this can result in impaired judgement and decisions that are later regretted.
We’ve discovered that some individuals are now pursuing family law advice in order to undo decisions or financial agreements made at the time of their separation years ago. Frequently, the decisions were made without the benefit of legal counsel, or perhaps only one party had legal counsel. In some instances, legal counsel was disregarded because the process had become too taxing or expensive. Only in hindsight is it clear how important it is to not only obtain family law advice from a specialist but also act on it.
This demonstrates the significance of seeking the right advice at the right time (and from the right people), despite the fact that we are able to assist and provide guidance in this area. It is crucial that distressed individuals with impaired judgement consult with family law attorneys who handle such cases on a daily basis.
Seek advice as soon as possible
We recognise that this may be challenging for some and the last thing people want to do, but it is the best course of action. It is essential to have a clear understanding of the options and routes available from the outset.
For us, the client’s best interests are of the utmost importance, and this includes being transparent about what they are entitled to (financial claims), the financial procedure, and what orders and agreements will mean practically moving forward, as well as future considerations. We are always transparent about legal fees so that clients can adequately fund their cases.
At a time when people’s judgement can be so impaired, it is crucial to seek the assistance of specialised solicitors who can ensure that nothing is agreed to uncritically.
Despite the fact that some people are ready to take action immediately, we also find that some people take initial advice at the time but do nothing, intending to take the necessary steps a few months later. For those who have taken the time to reflect on the advice and the situation, this may be more beneficial. It depends greatly on the circumstances and how the individual feels about the situation.
Don’t rush
Because of their children or living situation, or simply because they want to get things over with as quickly as possible, many individuals feel pressured to consent to something quickly. This mentality is understandable, but it is not always the best long-term strategy. This relates back to our first piece of advice: seek advice and then proceed accordingly.
It is preferable to pause and plan ahead than to rush into an agreement that you will ultimately regret. Prevention is preferable to treatment!
Don’t feel forced to agree anything
We frequently hear about individuals who feel coerced into consenting to something and are led to believe they have no other choice. There are always multiple approaches to resolving a problem, and it is crucial not to be pressured into concluding matters in a manner that favours one party.
Speak to friends and family
It is essential to have a support network and, if necessary, to seek professional assistance. Individuals experiencing divorce and separation need not feel isolated; a problem shared is a problem mitigated!
Additionally, bringing a friend or family member to an initial consultation can be beneficial, as they can serve as a sounding board. It is not required, but we have witnessed its usefulness.
If you or someone you know is experiencing divorce/financial/children issues and needs advice, please contact the DSL team of divorce/financial/children experts; we will be glad to assist.
